#StayUnited reads the social media statuses of many of my
United Methodist Church friends from Florida. In a time where a handful of more
conservative churches are threatening to leave the denomination over same-sex marriage and the ordination of gay and lesbian persons, the
image above is in the same spirit of Methodism’s founder John Wesley who is
sometimes attributed as saying, “In essentials unity, in non-essentials liberty,
in all things charity.” Some posting the image have said that it means to them
a commitment to the mission of the church, to make disciples, over the
infighting over issues of homophobia and heterosexism.
To my colleagues in
Florida United Methodism… before you post this image, beware the work that is
required of you to truly make us one.
The work of staying
united has little to with avoiding the schism threatened by a handful of
congregations who for the most part are already non-connectional.
The real work to be
done in making us one begins in
asking he question: who are the people who do not feel united or one with the
body today?
By posting the image above am I willing to do the
individual work that might be required to examine my privilege and the even
harder work of listening to the stories of those who do not feel united because of oppression I have contributed to?
As a white male heterosexual clergyperson I have always felt
united and one with the United Methodist Church. For example, my call to
ministry was relatively easy compared to many stories shared with me by women, people of
color, and LGBTQ people. As I listen to
their stories, I learn that barriers are often placed in their way to live out
their baptism that were nonexistent to me because of my privilege.
I felt more nurtured and supported by the church during my divorce than most gay or lesbian couples feel seeking to be married by their pastor in their church.
I felt more nurtured and supported by the church during my divorce than most gay or lesbian couples feel seeking to be married by their pastor in their church.
If I am serious about
the work of making us one I must
learn to trust the experience of others facing oppression over my own
experience of doors that are always open.
In the case of LGBTQ people, their discrimination is still
codified within our Methodist doctrine—naming their being incompatible with Christian teaching and blocking their desire to
follow a call to marriage or ordained ministry. But even in our work to make us one and end the oppression of
LGBTQ people in The UMC, it cannot be done at the expense of other people
experiencing oppression.
We must get there together.
If we want to stay
united we have to all get their together working at the intersections of
oppression—for me that means seeing beyond my privileged full inclusion to
those who are not included fully because of bigotry, racism, sexism, ableism,
heterosexism, and other isms that have already divided our body.
We cannot stay united if there are groups of
people who have never been fully united to begin with.
The church I attend begins every worship service with a statement
the congregation spent time writing together: Holy Covenant UMC is proud to be
a Reconciling Congregation. Whatever your race, ethnicity, gender identity,
sexual orientation, economic situation, background or belief, age or condition
of ableness, whether single or partnered, you are God’s beloved and are welcome
here!
For that congregation it is a statement of who they are, and who they are
still striving to be, because there is much work individually and collectively
to be done to make that statement a reality. For my friends in Florida, if you are interested in doing this work as a congregation, you should contact Helen Ryde of Reconciling Ministries Network. She will help your church walk through a process of writing a welcoming statement that seeks to include all people.
So if you are going to post the image above, beware of the
work that is required for true unity. Avoiding schism is the easy part—at the
end of the day, our complicated constitution and money will solve that problem.
The real work in making us one and staying united is in doing the work individually and collectively to
build the Beloved Community.
I'm in. Are you?